If you’re just finding this blog series, welcome. This is part 9 of a 10-part journey walking through real stories and real steps to move forward after betrayal. You can start at the beginning with Blog 1: Acknowledging the Pain.
This Isn’t Just You
If your relationship doesn’t feel like “yours” anymore… if you don’t know what you even want it to be anymore… you’re not alone in that.
Many women hit a point in this process where they realize: we can’t go back to how it was—and honestly, we don’t want to. That’s not bitterness. That’s clarity.
You’re allowed to want something new. Something better. Not just repaired, but redefined.
Sarah and Tom’s Recommitment
Back when we started working together, Sarah was drowning in decisions. Stay or go. Trust or leave. Speak up or shut down. But eventually, she and Tom chose something brave: a six-month full-effort commitment to give it their all. No talk of divorce during that time. Just honest work.
It was far from easy. Tom worked with Matt Smith to face the deeper stuff—what was behind his choices, not just the choices themselves. Sarah stopped making herself responsible for his growth and finally focused on her own. For the first time in a long time, she had space to feel like herself.
By the end of that six months, they weren’t perfect. But they were no longer enemies. They were teammates. And they chose to keep going, not from pressure, but from peace.
How Sandra got Unstuck
Sandra’s path has looked different. After breaking off her engagement, she felt like everything she thought her life would be was gone. But she joined my group coaching program with one small hope: maybe she didn’t have to stay stuck.
She’s been slowly rebuilding her vision of what a future relationship might look like. Not rushing into anything. Just learning what she values now, things like honesty, consistency, emotional safety.
One of her most powerful moments in the group was when she shared her new “relationship non-negotiables” with us. She said, “I don’t want a partner who makes me guess where I stand. I want radical honesty. I want calm. I want clarity. I want kindness.” And every woman in that Zoom room nodded, knowing exactly what she meant.
What’s Next
Next week, we’ll dive into Step 10: Moving Forward, Stronger Than Ever because no one should go through this alone. Whether you’re married, separated, or single, having the right kind of support is essential.
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