As I sit with you in this moment, dear reader, I invite you to ponder a profound question: Who would you be without this story?
In my work as a life coach, I’ve encountered numerous women navigating the turbulent waters of betrayal in their relationships. These women often find themselves entangled in stories of victimhood, their identities intertwined with the pain inflicted upon them. Whether it’s the heart-wrenching betrayal of infidelity, a partner’s hidden porn addiction or the violation of boundaries, the aftermath leaves deep scars that can shape how you see yourself and interact with the world.
Take a moment to think about the stories you hold inside. Really think about them. Now…what if you dared to rewrite the script? What if you refused to let betrayal define you? What if you were to give your story a twist–it isn’t only about what HAS happened…it is also about what HASN’T happened YET!
I’ve seen how looking at things differently can change everything. When you ditch old ideas about yourself and adopt new ones that make you feel strong and resilient, it’s like finally breaking free from chains. It all begins with realizing that while your past has shaped you, it doesn’t have to control you any longer..
Take, for instance, my client Sue who believed herself destined to be “stuck” in a loveless marriage because she couldn’t afford to leave. By simply adding the word “yet” to her story, she unlocked a newfound sense of agency and possibility. Suddenly, she was no longer a prisoner of circumstance but a woman empowered to chart her own course. (You can read more about how to do that HERE in this blog.)
Or consider another client who saw herself as perpetually drawn to “bad guys,” a self-fulfilling prophecy that only reinforced her sense of powerlessness. Through intentional introspection and a willingness to challenge her ingrained beliefs, she began to rewrite her narrative. She embraced the idea of dating with intention, of choosing partners who aligned with her values and goals.
And then there’s my client Ava who carried the weight of her past betrayals like a burden, convinced that she was irreparably broken. Through our work together, she learned to see herself not as a victim of circumstance, but as a survivor with the strength to heal and grow and is now thriving. Ava was more than a person who had been married to a narcissist, she was someone who was capable of living on her own, starting a business and thriving without a partner.
Dear reader, I invite you to explore the stories you tell yourself, to question the identities you’ve constructed in the wake of betrayal. What if you were more than the sum of your past traumas? What if you were capable of writing a new chapter, one filled with resilience, empowerment, and self-love? What if you allowed yourself to imagine what hasn’t happened yet?
As your guide on this journey of self-discovery, I offer you a gentle reminder: You are not defined by your pain. You are not held captive by the stories of betrayal that have shaped you. You are more than what others have done to you. And you have the power to make the future whatever you want it to be.
Who would you be without this story of betrayal? Who would you be if you stepped forward, ready to create a world where you were stronger than anything anyone else had ever done to you?
These aren’t just empty promises, this is what I help my clients do every day. Yes, horrible things happened to you. But what could ALSO be true? Could it be true that you are capable of healing your emotional wounds so that you can move forward into the future, and leave the betrayal behind? The answer is YES! Yes, you are capable of that. And I can help you.
Working with me does not mean that we pretend that the past didn’t happen, or act like what others did to you didn’t hurt. Quite the contrary. Working with me means looking at the past head on, honoring the pain you feel, and then moving forward, ready to take back your power, end the pain, and create something new in the future.
I typically work with people for 6 months at a time. During the first month we Get Going! We work through the past, start to understand where your real power lies, and make decisions of what you want. Month 2 you start to Take Back Control. You gain a deep understanding of where past problems have been coming from, and have renewed self-confidence, stronger than you’ve ever had before. During month 3 you become the Expert Creator of your own life. Stories of the past are no longer in the driver’s seat and you are making decisions for yourself and you love your reasons for making them. You feel really empowered! Month 4 you become an expert in setting and holding boundaries, creating and accomplishing goals, and really become the Creator of your Dreams! Month 5 is when trust gets repaired and you let your own values guide your life. No longer adjusting your boundaries to fit others’ behavior, you become the Relationship Designer. And finally month 6 together is all about self-mastery and deciding what your future is going to be. All of the work we do is about forward movement for your life, away from the old trauma stories that held you captive.
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Kendra Last, Certified Life Coach & Retreat Leader
